Observation and modelling
Abstract
This paper describes the observations and models which were part of the assignment. In total,
there are 3 models: Model 1: Women are more eager for love; Model 2: Men are the support
of the families, so they spend more time on studying and working than searching for love;
and Model 3: Women are fond of children, so they want to have children after marriage.
Three experiments were carried out. The findings of the experiments effectively support the
three models.
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Observation and models
Models
Model 1: Women are more eager for love. Generally speaking, women appear to be more
eager for love as depicted in many films, novels and stories. They can suddenly fall in love
with someone after the first meet.
Model 2: Men are expected to support their families, so they spend more time on studying
and working than searching for love. Men regard career or job as the most crucial thing after
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graduation. They need to make money and support their family, so they have to work hard
before getting married.
Model 3: Women really like children, so they want to have their children after marriage.
They want to become a mother. Usually, women are playing the role of taking care of
children in most families since they are compassionate.
Experiments
Experiment 1: After graduation, women prefer to get married to men who are older.
Dependent variable: Older men. For a marriage to take place, the man must be older than the
woman.
Independent variable: Marriage. Marriage has to take place after graduation.
Outcome
- Women are sensitive to the age of men since they are considered to age more than men. A
woman wants to look younger than the man she marries hence will look for a man that is
older to get married to. - Since women want to get married after graduation more than their male counterparts, they
have to seek older men, or they will wait for long before getting married.
Implications 3: Men have less to worry about in the sense of marriage since giving birth and
taking care of children is mostly left to women. Men are just supposed to provide financially
and are therefore not eager to get married before they get stable income. - Men have more responsibility to take care of and mostly prefer younger women. Since
they have to marry women that have already graduated, they need first to concentrate on their
job as they wait for the younger women to graduate.
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The experiment supports model two.
Experiment 2: Marriage does not require a person to be financially stable.
Dependent variable: Marriage
Independent variable: Financial stability
To make the variables work, men and women must be eager for marriage after graduation.
Implications:
- Women will fall in love with a man even if he does not have money since they just want to
be loved hence they can get married without being financially stable. - There are a lot of responsibilities that arise after marriage and men are the ones looked
upon to meet these responsibilities. Though there is love, a man has to consider having
finances right before marriage. - Children are part of the family and to bring out children requires finances. It is, therefore,
proper that financial stability is established first before getting married.
The experiment supports model one.
Experiment 3: Men and Women get married to get children
Dependent variable: Children
Independent variable: Marriage
Outcomes: - Love and financial stability do not have to exist for children to be born. A man and a
woman can just get married and have children.
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- There are expenses that must be incurred for the pregnancy and the whole process of
giving birth.
The experiment supports model three.
Findings and results
Model 1: Women are more eager for love.
The results that would be needed to support this model are that women generally look
for love in men – a woman just wants to be loved by her man – and secondly, a woman can
easily fall in love with any man even if they have only met once. The other needed result is
that a woman would fall in love with a man even if that man is not really financially stable
primarily because the woman only wants to be loved by the man and she is not interested in
his money.
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In general, women seek love in a relationship. It is worth mentioning that love is
essentially the confirmation which a woman requires to have in order to have some guarantee
that the man is going to stick around and assist her to bring up the children (Allen, 2015). A
woman wants to be shown love by her man for instance by the man saying that he loves her.
Women need and want to hear the phrase I love you from her husband often. However, words
alone are not adequate and women want men to also find other ways of expressing their love,
for instance by sending them flowers and telling them how pretty they look (Solomon, 2012).
Moreover, women express their love in terms of surrender; that is trust. A wife empowers her
husband by believing in her husband and accepting his leadership. A woman exchanges
power for love. She wants her husband’s love to posses her (Makow, 2015).
The results that would contract or fail to support this model are that women do not
seek, need or want love, and that a woman can get into marriage where there is no love; that
is, where she and her husband do not love each other. The data supported the model.
Model 2: Men are expected to support their families financially, so they spend more time on
studying and working than searching for love.
The results that would be needed to support this model are that in men, the most
important thing after graduating from college or university is to get a good job and become
financially stable and even purchase a house before considering having a wife and children.
The other result is that men want to achieve financial stability first before getting married.
Another important result is that men understand that marriage has a lot of responsibilities and
costs such as costs associated with paying hospital bills when the wife gives birth, bringing
up children, and providing the general needs of the family such as food, shelter and clothing.
Therefore, a man needs to be financially stable in order to take care of these financial needs
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as they arise during marriage and that is why men tend to wait for financial stability before
getting married.
On the whole, men tend to wait for a longer period of time than women before getting
married. On average, men wait until they reach 27 years old before marrying whereas women
wait on average until they reach 25 years (Dilworth, 2014). Men who get married later tend to
be not just more emotionally mature, but also more economically stable. Men consider
marriage as the last step in a long process of growing up and wish to wait until they get older
before having children when they are financially stable, and perhaps have a house before
marrying. Dye (2014) stated that there a number of reasons why men delay getting married:
nowadays, men can easily get sex without getting married; men wish to avoid divorce along
with its fiscal risks. Other reasons are that men face few social pressures to get married; want
to possess a house prior to getting a wife; by cohabiting instead of marrying, they are able to
enjoy the benefits of a wife; wait for the perfect soul mate; and would like to until they are
older before having children (Pease & Pease, 2011).
The results that would contradict or fail to support this Model 2 are that men want to get
married as soon as they leave college and have children, and that men do not consider being
financially stable essential prior to getting married. The data obtained actually supported this
model.
Model 3: Women are fond of children, so they want to have children after marriage.
The results that would need to be found to support the model are that neither financial
stability nor love is necessary for a couple to have a child. Even if a man and woman do not
love each other and even if they are not financially stable, they can still get married and have
a child or children. Most women want to get married in order to have children: the point of
marriage is basically to have a child or children. In essence, marriage establishes an
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environment properly suited to having children (Grewal & Urschel, 2014). In addition, the
society expects a married woman to have a child or children. Even so, some couples choose
to get married for companionship and love, or just to spend life together.
The results that would contradict or fail to support this model are that for a man and a woman
to get married and have children, first they must be financially stable. The other result is that
before having a child, the couple must be in love with each other. The obtained data from the
experiment supported this model.
References
Allen, T. (2015). What’s the point of being married if you don’t want children? Boston, MA:
SAGE publishers
Dilworth, K. (2014). First comes financial stability, then comes marriage, say young adults.
